How do you keep love in your marriage? Most family problems could be solved in five minutes if we would just put aside selfishness and pride. One of the most important things I have discovered after being married for almost seven years is that married life always goes smoother if I put my wife first. If I make her happiness a priority instead of mine, the entire family benefits. The reason, this works, is we thought certain things out very careful and had many serious conversations with each other before we tied the knot. That subject is for another post, but we had to make sure that both of us were on the same page before we got married. You see, with both of us having the same goals, it’s easier for us to work through the roadblocks that get in our way.
Putting my wife first takes care of many things. For one thing, it keeps her young. I don’t have to, and no one can make me, but I enjoy helping her with the dishes, sometimes cooking, or doing anything I can do to make her life easier. If I can make life easier for her, it keeps her young. Sometimes during a busy day, doing dishes together gives us a chance to talk with each other. I don’t want her to get worn out by all the things she has to do, to keep the household running cleanly and smoothly. One thing, we men, have to remember, is that in today’s world, most of our wives are holding down full-time jobs and keeping our families straight at the same time. I can relate to this because my mother, was a divorced, single parent. She worked a full-time job and raised my brother and I. Most of the women on the block where I grew up worked, including the married ones with working spouses. As far as I can remember, the women in my family and my neighborhood always worked, cooked, cleaned house and took care of their families.
I’ve also found out that when I put her first, she puts me first. She always has my back. Putting the other person first is not an easy thing for us to do. We always tend to look out for number one. This doesn’t work in marriage, and it’s usually not a good way of dealing with other people. I believe that it takes God’s help, for me to put her needs above my own. I also know that since I have asked him; he has helped me do it.
I know it sounds cliché, but would you rather be right or happy. When you put the other person’s needs first, you don’t have to be right all the time. I’m not saying you have to agree with everything she says. My mother once told me, ” if you see two people, and they always agree on everything, one of them is crazy”. Just remember that life at home shouldn’t be a contest, marriage is not supposed to be a competition.
If you’re not doing this already, don’t worry it’s never too late to start. We men should be the leaders of our homes, but it doesn’t take away from our manhood to help out around the house. So start out slowly, put her first always, she deserves it, you’ll be happy you did.